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2020.09.27 18:04 effthegreen I passed my LMSW! Here is my take on tips,tricks, and resources!

I passed yesterday! I needed 99 and passed with a comfortable margin. So happy to be done and have that part over with. Big shout out to this community for all of the resources and tips/tricks and SUPPORT. I felt like a lot of the tips/tricks were fragmented and all over the place so hopefully putting all the ones I found and used here helps someone! This is a long one so no worries if it isn't your cup of tea!
TL;DR: A list of everything I researched to help study, what I used, what I found helpful, whether I would recommend it, where to find it, and how much it costs. Also, finishing up with my take on the exam.
Context: I feel like this is important because learning style definitely impacts what study method and resource might work for you. I'm a visual learner with pretty good recall. My entire internship was clinical with experience assessing, diagnosing, and intervening.
Resources:
1) Social Work ASWB Masters Exam Guide and Practice Test Set - Dawn Apgar PhD, LSW, ACSW ("The Apgar Books")
Where to find it/Cost: Springer Publishing/$95
My take: This was the main source of studying for me. I felt like it provided a good overview of most of the things you would need to know. It definitely doesn't cover everything but it gives you a good "broad strokes" look at most things and goes a bit deeper on other things. Buying from Springer came with the code to access the content online, which gives you the opportunity to create a study plan based on your test date. The online content is the same as the book just presented online. Each section has practice questions BUT they're the same questions on the Practice Exam you take at the end. If you have good recall, you'll recognize the questions which might make the practice test less helpful. Also, the questions are NOT like the questions you're going to encounter on the exam but they help gauge your knowledge of the concepts the exam is testing on. The online content also has flashcards and games to help with reinforcement and learning.
Would I recommend it: Yeah I felt like it was a good resources for making sure you're exposed to as much as possible when preparing for the exam.
2) Pocket Prep App
Where to find it/Cost: Apple Store / Google Play Store / Free version; subscription available
My take: This is a good app to help reinforce what you're learning/studying. I would not use this as a standalone tool, though. I also wouldn't use this as a gauge of how prepared you are for the test. The questions are mainly focused on recall instead of application/reasoning that the LMSW mostly asks you about.
Would I recommend it: For sure the free version. Its a free resource to help reinforce learning so why not. Just keep in mind the questions aren't like what is on the test.
3) ASWB Guide to the Social Work Exams
Where to find it/Cost: ASWB / Ebook: $15 ; Print: $20
My take: This guide just breaks down how the test is created, what the questions are like, what to expect test day, etc. It also provides a reference list for the KSAs. This guide also isn't LMSW specific.
Would I recommend it: No. Save the money. There are plenty of other resources that are going to give you insight into what questions to expect and I don't really see too much value in knowing how the test is built.
4) ASWB Practice Exam
Where to find it/Cost: ASWB / $85
My take: This is the BEST resource I found to give you an idea of what to expect on test day. This is the only practice test resource that comes right from the source. The test is administered to look and operate exactly like the Pearson system. You also can review the answers afterward, see what you got right and wrong, what sections you need more practice on, and read the reasoning for the right answer.
Would I recommend it: If you have the money, absolutely. I wish I would have taken it earlier because it showed me some areas that Apgar hadn't exposed me to that I needed to do some more research/learning on.
5) Phil in the Gaps (The Phil Luttrell Videos)
Where to find it/Cost: Youtube / Free (He has study groups; not sure of fees for those)
My take: A great free resource on understanding the questions and he provides a framework for breaking down the questions. He focuses on the SFAREAFI acronym and uses it to help with the application/reasoning questions you're going to encounter.
Would I recommend it: Sure, its a free resource with exposure to questions from the exam. I like Phil's delivery and I think it's pretty easy to understand. I don't like the acronym (more on that later) but it works for some people and he's a pretty good resource to help with that.
6) Agents of Change Test Prep by Meagan Mitchell
Where to find it/Cost: Youtube / Free (See has a test prep program for a fee)
My take: I can't speak to the test prep program. She does have pretty good videos on her channel that provide more information on specific concepts the exam tests on. I watched the Personality Disorder and Program Evaluation videos and felt like they were helpful.
Would I recommend it: Again, free resource on Youtube so why not. Use them as a compliment to other research/learning. Can't speak to the test prep program.
Other resources I researched but didn't use:
1) Therapist Development Center (TDC)
Where to find it/Cost: TDC / $275
My take: Lots of great reviews on this. 275 was just too rich for my blood. I might revisit when studying for my LCSW, though.
2) LEAP Exam Prep
Where to find it/Cost: LEAP / Price Varies
My take: There are lots of different resources here for a fee. They were pretty pricey so I decided against it based on the other resources I had found. There are plenty of good reviews about them, though.
3) LMSW Exam Prep Bootcamp
Where to find it/Cost: Website / Price Varies
My take: I saw one person on here say that they had used this and it worked for them. Beyond that, I don't have much information on how useful, reliable, or valid the program is.
My tips for the exam:
Hope this helps someone! Remember, you aren’t going to know everything on the exam (had to remind myself of this one) and that is OK! The test is designed to measure whether you have a certain level of competence (measured by an exam but that is a different discussion) to safely, ethically, and effectively practice as a social worker. If you graduated with your MSW, you already have that! Now it is just refining it to the requirements of the exam. Good luck!
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2020.09.27 17:46 MusicDrafts Fantasy Music Drafts - An Explanation...

I figured that I'd share something with this group that my friends and I started in late 2016...
We are all big sports fans, and naturally we like fantasy sports. Our group is also REALLY into music. Real junkies.
I, myself, always used to take my iTunes library and work to pare down "greatest hits" albums for each of my favorite artists. What would an album look like? Single/Double Album? How many songs should be included? What was the order? Catalog sequential or more topical?
One night, two of us were having a beer watching a game and we started arguing about Smashing Pumpkins songs and which ones were the best. And it got us thinking...
As everyone knows, the best part of the fantasy season is the draft. You get the chance to craft your team with the best players available. You feel like a real GM.
That's when I had the stupid idea to "draft" 10 songs each and see who's was better.
We shared the two lists and they voted on which was better, and slowly this morphed into us starting a FANTASY MUSIC DRAFT LEAGUE.
Yes, we are a bunch of junkies and losers.
But...
We also follow through with an idea.
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Here's the basic logistics of how this works...
We have 5 guys in the league, and we started a group chat on our iPhones.
For season 1, I created a group of 10 bands to draft (subsequent "seasons" we would have a "band" pre-draft...)
We create a random draft order using a fantasy draft randomizer online, then we have a 10-round snake draft picking songs along the way.
We then have a short drop/add time to round out our 10 songs, then work to reorder those songs to make the 10-song playlist.
We create the playlist on Spotify and then share with the rest of the group. All of the picks and playlists are saved on shared Google Docs file to keep us organized.
Then, we each score the playlists with two criteria: "Draft Performance & Song Quality" and "Playlist Construction & Theme Quality". (By the way, this is the inherent flaw in our league, as music is incredibly subjective. We've refined the scoring system several times, still not sold on our methodology...)
The scores from the individual weeks add up over the course of the season and we declare a winner.
We are now in the middle of season 8. To date, we've done 87 official drafts, and probably another 10 side drafts. As you could imagine, our wives think this is the dumbest thing ever, but we persist...
Here are the bands that we have done thus far...
SEASON 1 Week 1 - Radiohead Week 2 - Incubus Week 3 - Coldplay Week 4 - Pearl Jam Week 5 - Pink Floyd Week 6 - Kings of Leon Week 7 - Red Hot Chili Peppers Week 8 - Led Zeppelin Week 9 - Smashing Pumpkins Week 10 - Beatles - Double Album
SEASON 2 Week 1 - Bob Marley Week 2 - G-Funk Era Week 3 - Dispatch Week 4 - Billy Joel Week 5 - Outkast Week 6 - Michael Jackson Week 7 - U2 Week 8 - Motown's Greatest Week 9 - The Who Week 10 - Dave Matthews Band - Double Album
SEASON 3 Week 1 - Eagles Week 2 - Jack Johnson Week 3 - Rush Week 4 - 2004 Week 5 - Allman Brothers Band Week 6 - Seattle Scene Week 7 - Death Cab For Cutie Week 8 - Eminem Week 9 - Weezer Week 10 - 1982 Week 11 - The Police Week 12 - Hair Metal Week 13 - 2017 Austin City Limits - Double Album
SEASON 4 Week 1 - War On Drugs/Kurt Vile Week 2 - Rolling Stones Week 3 - Black Crowes Week 4 - 1986 Week 5 - Tribe/Q-Tip/Busta Week 6 - Kanye West Week 7 - Beck Week 8 - Everything Jack White Week 9 - Tom Petty Week 10 - 1994 Week 11 - Elton John Week 12 - Rage Medley Week 13 - 2011 Mountain Jam Festival - Double Album
SEASON 5 Week 1 - Boy Bands Week 2 - Ben Harper Week 3 - Green Day Week 4 - 1981 Week 5 - My Morning Jacket Week 6 - Tame Impala/Mac Demarco/MGMT Week 7 - The Roots Week 8 - WuTang Clan Week 9 - Blink-182 Week 10 - 1998 Week 11 - Stevie Wonder Week 12 - Lil Wayne Week 13 - Woodstock Festivals - Double Album
SEASON 6 Week 1 - Beach/Chill Summer Medley Week 2 - John Mayer Week 3 - 311 Week 4 - 1974 Week 5 - Bob Seger Week 6 - Nas Week 7 - Beach House Week 8 - Chon/Ronald Jenkees/Tauk Week 9 - Kendrick Lamar Week 10 - 2005 Week 11 - Genesis Medley Week 12 - Grateful Dead Week 13 - 2004 NOLA Jazz Festival - Double Album
I'd like to start sharing the results of the already completed drafts somewhere here in the community. Maybe post them week by week, with links to the Spotify lists, and let the group at large vote on the playlists.
Wanted to get feedback from this group to see how to best make that happen.
Thought you'd appreciate the music nerd-dom...
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2020.09.27 17:43 MusicDrafts Fantasy Music Drafts - An Explanation...

I figured that I'd share something with this group that my friends and I started in late 2016...
We are all big sports fans, and naturally we like fantasy sports. Our group is also REALLY into music. Real junkies.
I, myself, always used to take my iTunes library and work to pare down "greatest hits" albums for each of my favorite artists. What would an album look like? Single/Double Album? How many songs should be included? What was the order? Catalog sequential or more topical?
One night, two of us were having a beer watching a game and we started arguing about Smashing Pumpkins songs and which ones were the best. And it got us thinking...
As everyone knows, the best part of the fantasy season is the draft. You get the chance to craft your team with the best players available. You feel like a real GM.
That's when I had the stupid idea to "draft" 10 songs each and see who's was better.
We shared the two lists and they voted on which was better, and slowly this morphed into us starting a FANTASY MUSIC DRAFT LEAGUE.
Yes, we are a bunch of junkies and losers.
But...
We also follow through with an idea.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Here's the basic logistics of how this works...
We have 5 guys in the league, and we started a group chat on our iPhones.
For season 1, I created a group of 10 bands to draft (subsequent "seasons" we would have a "band" pre-draft...)
We create a random draft order using a fantasy draft randomizer online, then we have a 10-round snake draft picking songs along the way.
We then have a short drop/add time to round out our 10 songs, then work to reorder those songs to make the 10-song playlist.
We create the playlist on Spotify and then share with the rest of the group. All of the picks and playlists are saved on shared Google Docs file to keep us organized.
Then, we each score the playlists with two criteria: "Draft Performance & Song Quality" and "Playlist Construction & Theme Quality". (By the way, this is the inherent flaw in our league, as music is incredibly subjective. We've refined the scoring system several times, still not sold on our methodology...)
The scores from the individual weeks add up over the course of the season and we declare a winner.
We are now in the middle of season 8. To date, we've done 87 official drafts, and probably another 10 side drafts. As you could imagine, our wives think this is the dumbest thing ever, but we persist...
Here are the bands that we have done thus far...
SEASON 1 Week 1 - Radiohead Week 2 - Incubus Week 3 - Coldplay Week 4 - Pearl Jam Week 5 - Pink Floyd Week 6 - Kings of Leon Week 7 - Red Hot Chili Peppers Week 8 - Led Zeppelin Week 9 - Smashing Pumpkins Week 10 - Beatles - Double Album
SEASON 2 Week 1 - Bob Marley Week 2 - G-Funk Era Week 3 - Dispatch Week 4 - Billy Joel Week 5 - Outkast Week 6 - Michael Jackson Week 7 - U2 Week 8 - Motown's Greatest Week 9 - The Who Week 10 - Dave Matthews Band - Double Album
SEASON 3 Week 1 - Eagles Week 2 - Jack Johnson Week 3 - Rush Week 4 - 2004 Week 5 - Allman Brothers Band Week 6 - Seattle Scene Week 7 - Death Cab For Cutie Week 8 - Eminem Week 9 - Weezer Week 10 - 1982 Week 11 - The Police Week 12 - Hair Metal Week 13 - 2017 Austin City Limits - Double Album
SEASON 4 Week 1 - War On Drugs/Kurt Vile Week 2 - Rolling Stones Week 3 - Black Crowes Week 4 - 1986 Week 5 - Tribe/Q-Tip/Busta Week 6 - Kanye West Week 7 - Beck Week 8 - Everything Jack White Week 9 - Tom Petty Week 10 - 1994 Week 11 - Elton John Week 12 - Rage Medley Week 13 - 2011 Mountain Jam Festival - Double Album
SEASON 5 Week 1 - Boy Bands Week 2 - Ben Harper Week 3 - Green Day Week 4 - 1981 Week 5 - My Morning Jacket Week 6 - Tame Impala/Mac Demarco/MGMT Week 7 - The Roots Week 8 - WuTang Clan Week 9 - Blink-182 Week 10 - 1998 Week 11 - Stevie Wonder Week 12 - Lil Wayne Week 13 - Woodstock Festivals - Double Album
SEASON 6 Week 1 - Beach/Chill Summer Medley Week 2 - John Mayer Week 3 - 311 Week 4 - 1974 Week 5 - Bob Seger Week 6 - Nas Week 7 - Beach House Week 8 - Chon/Ronald Jenkees/Tauk Week 9 - Kendrick Lamar Week 10 - 2005 Week 11 - Genesis Medley Week 12 - Grateful Dead Week 13 - 2004 NOLA Jazz Festival - Double Album
I'd like to start sharing the results of the already completed drafts somewhere here in the community. Maybe post them week by week, with links to the Spotify lists, and let the group at large vote on the playlists.
Wanted to get feedback from this group to see how to best make that happen.
Thought you'd appreciate the music nerd-dom...
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2020.09.27 12:44 dadada486 How to be little better at this...

Truth be told: I never liked online dating, and had abandoned it earlier in the year. With the pandemic, seem likes I couldn't avoid it forever.
I have never had any success with online dating. I haven't had a single date from it. Admittedly, this is partly my own doing.
Now I'm trying to get some tips on how to be a little better. I get matches, but I'm tired of constantly being ghosted or the conversations going nowhere. I figured there must be a few things I am doing wrong.
So here are a few questions to get started.
Following a match:
1) Should you respond straight away? Should you respond as soon as you receive a reply? I've come to stop playing mind games a long time ago, but you always wonder whether you are coming across as too eager
2) Should you overthink what to say? Should you just respond as normal, like I'm in a normal conversation, and forget about trying to sound witty, clever, or flirtatious. One part of me thinks this should be how to do it, and this is what everyone advises: "just have a conversation". On the other hand, this is not working!
3) How much does all this matter anyway? I know women get a ton of matches. Any one match you get is probably just one in hundreds for the girl. I also know that for the girl to even respond, there needs to be some base level of attractiveness. If it isn't there you are screwed either way. Would you agree with this?
4) Exactly how long should you or can you expect to keep the relationship solely online. Should a priority be to set a date as soon as you are both comfortable or drop it if you will never be comfortable? For those of us who never liked having a relationship via text, this would probably be the way to go, otherwise you will keep her guessing just what you are like
5) Does friends first work? I don't disregard it completely. Many women online actually say in their profiles that they are "looking for friends", so they must be open to the idea. In both the real and virtual worlds, I have female friends, some I wish to develop, others I don't. However, I find it never works on online dating apps. Could it be that every girl who says they want friends are just being dishonest?
6) What is the best way to get her interest? Should you brag about what you've done or what you do. I know this sounds like a super bad idea, but remember online is incredibly competitive. Shouldn't you leverage as much of your value as possible?
7) what are the best subjects of conversation? Common interests as with any other conversation, or more personal, intimate subjects such as past dates etc.
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2020.09.27 12:35 querkos I need help

i recently met a girl online she's the same age as me and we spent alot of time together played games watched movies together and did so much voice/video calls and i would love to actually meet her irl she's from the us and i'm from egypt i wanna go on dates with her in person cause im kinda tired of the online life but i dont know how to do that can she help me with the travel process? what type of visa should i apply for? do i have to becareful from specific things? any tips i'm 20 i dont have much experience so i would love any help from you guys and if some people can actually tell me where to go and what to ask for and these things i'll be thankful
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2020.09.27 12:02 StupidFatHobbit StupidFatHobbit's Filter v3.12.1 - Heist League Update I - Economy & Minor Fixes

9/27/20 - v3.12.1 - Heist League Update I - Economy & Minor Fixes

Forum Item Filter Page
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Update Notes:

This contains the economy update for the league as well as improvements to Heist highlights. There are also a number of minor fixes and adjustments to fix some irregularities that occurred during the large rewrite in v3.11.5.
Major Changes and New Features:
  • Added sound and icon to rogue's markers
  • Added sound and icons to the two highest tiers of rogue gear
  • Increased the number of bases listed in 11a (now shows top 4 instead of top 2) and separated them by item class for easier editing and deletion. Added full blocks for helms instead of only having the highest helm included. ES bases remain much more restricted
  • Tiered all new divination cards and uniques
  • Changed fractured/synthesis highlighting to be less similar to Redeemer, heavily simplified blocks
  • Re-enabled some of the optional rare blocks in 11b in the Strict filter
Noteworthy Changes:
  • Vaal Axe and Karui Chopper rares now show by default in Strict
  • Rewrote life/mana flask section (again) as the previous rewrite was causing some headaches
  • Removed amulets from corrupted IDcraft
  • Corrupted jewellery that fails IDcraft checks is now hidden in Strict, not just Uber
  • Added separate highlighting for delirious maps
  • Added separate highlighting for unique contracts
  • Changed trinket highlighting to be different from rogue loot highlighting
  • Fossil icons have changed again, this time they're orange circles. Catalysts have taken yellow circles
Levelling Changes (General):
  • Removed white jewellery catchalls from maps. White jewellery will no longer show when maps start
  • White amethyst rings now only shows at higher level zones while levelling (basically between quarry and maps only)
  • Reverted level range increases for sounded 1 and 2 stat amulets while levelling. 1 stat stops after a2, 2 stat after a4
  • Divine life flasks no longer have larger font size / red border once maps start (show until 72 for xmute purposes)
  • Larger magic items (mainly staves/bows) now start thinning at end of a2 rather than end of a3
  • All magic shields now always show before a5 kitava
  • General filter once again shows all nonqual gems, now terminating at the end of a3 (library)
  • Adjusted nonpriority rare highlighting during the early mapping phase. Slightly more rares, especially shields, will be shown
  • Amethyst flask added to priority list in general filter because of the vendor recipe
  • Items in the hide layer during the levelling phase are a little bit bigger
Minor Changes & Fixes:
  • Fixed secondary magic jewellery (i.e. moonstone) having larger font size than primary basetypes (ruby, etc) during the second half of the levelling phase
  • Lots of font size and icon adjustments, removed some redundant blocks as well
  • Numerous other minor adjustments and edits
As usual, the best way to stay up to date on the filter is to follow the forum thread or to add me ingame. With the filter's increasing popularity, the best way to ask me questions about it is over my stream twitch.tv/sfhobbit as I simply cannot type while playing. Any lengthy inquiries will always be directed to the stream if it is online. Since I keep getting asked I have also finally set up a donation link for those who want to support the filter.
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2020.09.27 08:39 Lanaaaxo How to overcome social anxiety... tips? Advice?

So, I’m a college student. My days mostly revolve around classes, the gym every single day, and I’ll occasionally go out a couple of times a week to shop around or go hiking. The amount of social anxiety that I feel has definitely gotten better compared to when I was a kid or a teenager, so I’m proud of my progress. I feel a moderate level of social anxiety at the gym (it’s a huge gym packed with people). Once I work out for a few hours, I notice that I’m focusing more on my workout rather than the people that are there. Classes aren’t bad since they are online right now. I guess I’m just wanting some tips or advice on how to overcome social anxiety even more because sober dating without the use of alcohol is super tough for me as well as certain social events.
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2020.09.27 07:25 throwawaydate2020 Spent a good portion of what money I had left to get ghosted.

I went ( 37m) on a date with a woman (38 f) and spent $50 on flowers, expensive coffee, and a snack. I wasn't really sure how the date went because we only hugged at the end. I didn't expect anything exactly, but I was hoping for an offer for a future date.
First I'd like to preface that I am living in a homeless shelter, and it has been almost impossible to find work. I receive $90 every two weeks which I use for transportation and food when the meals at the shelter are unbearable.
I know dating while homeless during a pandemic is a horrible idea, but I haven't had a real relationship in 3 years. I've had hookups, but I'm tired of being used only for sex. It seems harder and harder to find a real relationship these days.
I have been feeling so alone and emotionally distant from humanity, that I decided to finally try online dating. I never had much success on dating apps. I tried tinder (when it first came out) for about a month, well before I was ever homeless. I didn't get any matches so I deleted it and never went back. This time I tried hinge, which is a little more personal so I thought I might have better luck.
After about 2-3 weeks of having conversations with some women, I had one canceled to show for it. I was ready to give up when I matched with someone I thought was cute, and we had good chemistry conversating. We made a date this past week, I offered to get food. We agreed on the day,time, and place to meet.
I wanted to get her my favorite dumplings and eat in the park, since we couldn't eat inside. The day before the date I traveled 4 hours round trip to see if the restaurant was still open. It was closed down forever due to the pandemic. I tried to looking around the for things to do, like visit a big interesting library, and a foreign food market. The library was closed due to covid and the market was alot smaller than advertised online. I was ready to give up.
I told my date I was thinking of canceling. I explained what happened, and she said it was ok we can still meet up for coffee. I said ok, and found the one place that we actually sit down and drink coffee and talk. It overlooked the park and was near to where we originally planned to meet.
She said she gets out of work at 5:30pm, I asked if she wanted to meet at 6pm instead, so she would have time to get there. She insisted on 5:30pm , and I agreed. The day of the date I showed up at 5pm. I had left early because i had to travel on a bus that was unpredictable and there was train construction. I also stopped to get flowers.
I waited and waited, I thought I was being stood up but she showed up at 5:45pm. Then the coffee place which was mostly empty, asked if we had reservations. I had no idea they took reservations, if I had known I would've tried the day before. Luckily they said we could sit but had to leave by 7pm.
We ordered coffee ($9 each) and an appetizer ($10), and proceded to get to know each other better. We seemed to really click, even after i explained i was homeless. We talked about her work, and my prior work, our education and travels. We both seemed to be having a good time. When it got near 7pm, I asked for the check and she went to the bathroom. I paid and waited for my change so I could tip from two $20 bills.
When she got back, she offered to pay for her drink, but i said I already paid. When the waiter came back , she didn't offer to tip, so I tipped almost $7. I know I shouldn't be too concerned about money, but i had spent almost $50 on this date, of the $90 i had to my name. It's also my mom's birthday today, so I wanted to be able to get her a nice gift as well. Looking back, I should have spent more money on my mom and I feel really bad about it.
Anyway, after the coffee we continued to talk , and i mentioned that my birthday was coming up on Monday.( my mother and I have have birthdays 2 days apart). I asked if she wanted to see the foreign market. We went and saw some cool food items. I was hoping maybe she would offer to get some we candy we both were interested in or a snack. I was really hungry, I hadn't eaten since since breakfast but I didn't say anything. I suggested maybe we could have come back and have a picnic in the future. She said that would be and thanked me for showing her a cool spot she didn't know existed.
It was getting close to 8pm and I think she had work the next day but wasn't sure ( I forgot to to ask). I also have a curfew at 10pm so I had to leave as well. I walked her to her train station and she put her mask up before opening her arms for a hug. I figured ok, no kissing on the first date. I know we just met and there is a pandemic so I didn't think too much of it, but i did think the face covering didn't bode well. We literally spent two hours without our face covered and talking close. I wished her a good and walked to my train station.
An hour later I got out the train and walked to the bus. Someone who lives at the shelter recognized me. I've only hello to this person every time I see them, about 2 months. He offered to buy me me tacos, he didn't even know my birthday was coming up. It was an amazing kind gesture I needed, and was much appreciated.
While waiting for my tacos my date texted me , say ing she got home. She loved the flowers and had a good time. I said that was good because I wasn't sure she had felt about me. I asked if I could call her and she said she was talking to her sister (9pm). I said ok, how about in an hour when I'm back in my room. She said maybe if it wasn't too late.
I was waiting for the bus and it was getting late. I was freaking out, because i could lose my bed and my belongings packed (which they sometimes "lose" in storage). Finally the bus shows up, and i was able to get near the shelter around 9:45pm. I get in and get settled, and asked my date if I could call her (10pm). She said was still talking to her sister. I said ok, she can hit me up later if she wants. No response.
Saturday I didn't text my date all day, i wanted to see if she would write back.I spent time with my mom but still felt bad I could only get her a big bouquet and a birthday card. My mom was happy though, and appreciated my effort. I started to regret spending more money on date I barely knew, than my mom who I love. I felt awful and stupid.
Finally around 7pm my date texted me asking how my Saturday was going. I said good, saw my mom etc. I asked how her day was, no response. 30 minutes go by and I see my message oddly didn't go through. (It said so in red text). I sent it again, waited still no response. 30 minutes later I text if she got my message, and messaged on the app as well. Waited and finally get a one word sentence saying it was nice what I did for my mom. No mention of her day or if my texts got through. 
I felt like she initiated the conversation, but didn't want to have one (twice). Am I wrong? I know she's probably busy on a Saturday night, but why message me if you won't respond to questions like "how was your day?" Or "did you get my text?" Am I overthinking this? I really wanted to just talk to her , and see if her mask raising was just being reserved which I can totally respect. Or if she simply wasn't feeling me. It's not a convo I want to have in text. I was hoping for phone convo, or at least be offered a second date. My gut says if I have to ask i already know the answer.
TLDR: went on a date, spent more money than I should have. Regretted it because I could have it spent it on my mom's bday gift.
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2020.09.27 05:44 startaquizbowlteam Quizbowl Studying Resources and Guides: A Comprehensive Set of Links

Since this is a fairly common question on this subreddit, here's a compendium of resources and guides. Note that, unless otherwise indicated, all of these resources are free for players and coaches.

Specific Resources for Studying Quizbowl

The Quizbowl Packet Archive. Tens of thousands of free questions from past quizbowl tournaments, arranged by general level (Middle School, High School, and Collegiate) and then by tournament. The difficulty for each tournament varies considerably, so look for a number on the name of each set that indicates its general difficulty (1 = easiest, 5 = hardest).
The QuizDB. A search engine for quizbowl questions where players can filter results by question category, difficulty, tournament, and a few other settings. Most questions on QuizDB are also available via the Packet Archive too, but QuizDB is far easier to use when searching for specific topics and categories.
SCOP Study Sheets. A collection of useful facts and buzzwords about some of the most common quizbowl topics by the folks behind the excellent SCOP novice question sets. Great place to start to learn the basics for a variety of topics for newer players.
NAQT's "You Gotta Know" guides. A free monthly themed set of usually around 10 specific people/places/things with a paragraph-long description of quizbowl-relevant clues and information for each. There are *many* of these out there and the level of detail and relative difficulty of each can vary greatly. In general, the older ones are a bit less detailed and the more recent ones are a bit more detailed.
Protobowl. An automatic question reader that allows for multiple people to buzz-in and compete against each other online as the computer "reads" the question to you word-by-word. Has a relatively limited database of questions, though you can pick specific categories and difficulty levels. Unfortunately, there are anonymous trolls in many of the public rooms who will do their best to ruin the experience for others. Use caution and avoid the public rooms unless you are prepared for trolling. Setting up your own room for yourself and your teammates is simple (just add a /anyname to the protobowl.com address, e.g. protobowl.com/reddit) and you can easily play without distractions.
Quizbug. An automatic question reader similar to Protobowl but with more functionality and access to updated questions from QuizDB. Less social than Protobowl, but also no trolls.
The Qwiz Quizbowl Camps have a fairly large collection of moderately-detailed study guides for an array of quizbowl topics. These are like a more focused, HS-level version of NAQT's "You Gotta Know" guides.
NAQT's quizbowl podcasts. If you want to listen to NAQT-style quizbowl questions at tournament speed, NAQT has recordings from its national championship tournaments dating back to 2005 freely available (obtaining copies of the questions themselves though requires purchasing them from NAQT for a $ fee). There's also a NAQT YouTube channel with some filmed matches.
The Culture Index. An eccentric but detailed selection of various names and facts that could be useful for quizbowl. Probably more useful for college quizbowl than the HS level.

Guides to Studying and Preparing for Quizbowl

From the Northern California Quizbowl Alliance comes Niki Peters' excellent "Guide I Wish I Had" that covers a whole range of quizbowl topics from picking a category to learn to practicing and in-game strategy. Also includes a useful lexicon defining many common quizbowl terms.
NAQT has a fairly extensive guide to improving as a quizbowl player, with some references to proprietary ($) NAQT study aids like its frequency lists and Power-Up guides. Some useful ideas about reference materials as well as links to other NAQT guides for building up teams.
Greater Pennsylvania Quiz Bowl's Ryan Bilger has a detailed post on how to study and improve for quizbowl players.
The Missouri Quizbowl Alliance's Charlie Dees has a good set of tips on studying and preparing for quizbowl.
PACE's Colin McNamara (also of Idaho Quizbowl) has a nice guide for coaches looking to improve their teams.
Greater Pennsylvania Quiz Bowl has a coaching guide as well as a "coaching efficiently" guide for busy teachers.
A really good post on how to become a great science player that gets into the mental aspect of trying to tailor your studying techniques so that you'll be rewarded when playing quizbowl.
The QBWiki has some pages related to studying methods for quizbowl, but they're not always fully fleshed-out and, like much of the QBWiki, often have baffling in-jokes that have been lost to time.
The HSQB Forums have a "Theory" section that sometimes has discussions of improving at quizbowl (search for things like "studying" "improving" and see what you can find).
Finally, you should always feel free to ask other quizbowlers how they improved--most of the time, quizbowlers love to talk about learning things for quizbowl and may have specific sources, practice/study techniques, or ideas for you. Don't hesitate to reach out to people on your team or other teams to ask!
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2020.09.26 21:28 Ok-System-8012 Mission Survival Tips

First of all, thank you for reading this. I started my mission on Tuesday and am looking for tips on how to get through this. I originally wasn't going to serve a mission but from pressure from my parents I put in my papers. After I got my call I met a rm and we dated for a while and got really close, I care alot about her and wanted to be with her but already had my papers in and she wanted me to have this experience so I went mostly for her. I did the online MTC for nine weeks and was left mostly to my own devices so I could pretty much do whatever I wanted but the field is a whole separate beast as I've seen. I want things to work out with my girlfriend since I care alot about her but I know i have to stick out the mission, i know im certainly not committed like my companions are but I'm certain staying out is going to be better in the long term. She and I have very similar stories and reservations about the church and want the same things out of life. Unfortunately my anxiety started coming back while i was at the mtc and I started missing her and started having thoughts of wanting to leave so I could be with her which my anxiety latched onto and lead to a culmination of a huge panic attack that led me to talk to my parents and my mission president. They were all fine and supportive but their focus is just on spiritual development and focusing outward and on the mission, they're doing their best to help me but I just dont have the same beliefs. I tried to be committed to serving but I know now that as soon as I get a companion who doesn't want to work im going to do fuck all. I ordered a new phone since this one is going to get Mas360, but I am eager to hear advice from people about how they made it through their missions.
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2020.09.26 19:41 ZappaOMatic [OC] On this day 100 years ago, the first game involving an APFA/NFL team took place as the Rock Island Independents defeated the non-league St. Paul Ideals 48–0.

Last Thursday was the 100-year anniversary of the meeting between the representatives of ten teams that would ultimately form the National Football League. My write-up on that historic meeting turned out to be a massive hit, and I'm back with yet another centennial anniversary post. This time, we go from the car showroom to the football field.
100 years ago on September 26, 1920, a team took to the gridiron as a member of the NFL—then known as the American Professional Football Association—for the first time. While it was not a "true" league game as their opponent was not part of the APFA, it marked the start of something big.

The Rock Island Independents

Take a wild guess as to how the Rock Island Independents got their name.
For the first two decades of its existence, the Illinois-based team took on opponents regardless of league affiliation. Walter Flanigan joined the Independents as a player in 1912 before taking over as manager three years later. As the team racked up wins, Flanigan wanted to take his club to a higher level, and he gained that opportunity in 1917 when he challenged the Minneapolis Marines, the self-proclaimed "North West Pro Champs", to a game on Rock Island's home turf. A team record 6,425 fans turned out for the game, though they would fall to the Marines 7–3 (a rematch resulted in a more lopsided defeat of 33–14).[1]
After being shipped off to serve in World War I, Flanigan returned to the football world by cobbling together a slate of local games (all of which were shutout wins for the Independents). In 1919, he set his eyes on the national championship.[1]
As discussed in the last post, there was no "true" national champion as there was no national sanctioning body at the time. A team could win every game in their regional league and declare themselves the national champs without much objection, and that was what many teams did. Since the Independents were, well, independent, Flanigan had another idea to pursue the national title: take on league teams.
To do this, he recruited Minneapolis star quarterback Rube Ursella to his side, and a variety of Marines including local fullback Jerry Mansfield also joined the Independents. However, Flanigan's recruiting may have been too successful as a laundry list of interested players showed up; to weed out the scrubs, he organized a series of foot races and wrestling matches in which the losers were kicked off the team. Once he had a suitable roster, he got to work.[1]
The 1919 Independents would face a challenging slate against the top teams from Ohio and Indiana, including future NFL franchises Columbus Panhandles and Akron Indians. With the exception of a 12–7 defeat at the hands of the Hammond All-Stars, a team that featured an end by the name of George Halas, and a scoreless tie against a decorated Pine Village team, Rock Island would shut out every opponent.[1]

The Bulldog "Beef"

At season's end, the Independents boasted a 9–1–1 record, but Flanigan had one last game on his mind: a date with the undefeated Canton Bulldogs for the national championship on December 7.[1]
Well, Canton star Jim Thorpe said his team had other plans. Like, that was basically what his answer was.
On November 30, Ralph Hay, leader of the Bulldogs, sent a telegram to Flanigan asking what the Independents would offer in exchange for playing the game. A Rock Island fan had attended Canton's win over Hammond the previous week and was promised by the Bulldogs manager that he would consider a game against the Bulldogs as long as the Massillon Tigers beat the Cleveland Tigers (since Massillon had lost to Canton twice earlier in the season).[2]
Massillon won and Hay kept his promise by reaching out to Flanigan, who offered him $5,000 or 45% of the ticket sales. Both numbers had been demanded by Thorpe earlier in the year.[2]
The following evening, Hay called Flanigan and asked for the score of the Rock Island game against Akron. He provided the answer (a 17–0 Independents win), but expressed confusion as to why that was so important for Hay. Hay then told Flanigan to talk to Thorpe before he could agree whether or not to play the game.[2]
An hour and 17 minutes later, Flanigan received a telegram from Thorpe: "Have disbanded team. Cannot meet Rock Island."[2]
Kind of a lame excuse, but it's likely Thorpe also turned it down as the Rock Island/Akron game had only attracted 1,700 fans.[1] Flanigan attempted to reach out to Canton once again with by bumping the offer to $7,000 guaranteed or 50% of the gate.[3] Calls to Hay went unanswered, while one telegram to Thorpe read:[2]
We are offering your team the largest guarantee that it has ever received before, $5,000 or a privilege of 50 per cent for the gate. If you don't accept Rock Island fans will say you are quitters. Wire me your answer."
Thorpe's answer? No. One final call to Thorpe redirected Flanigan to an operator who told him that the Bulldogs player was sick and could not answer.[2]
True to Flanigan's threat, Independents fans and media were quick to brand the Bulldogs as cowards. The Rock Island Argus, a very [2]
Is Canton's famed Bulldogs afraid to risk their title of world's football champions by coming to Rock Island Sunday?
By arranging things in order and arriving at a logical conclusion, there can be but one answer. And that is "yes."
A fan letter to the Argus sports editor:[4]
Dear Sir: Being a real football fan I am like a great many more, disappointed because the Canton Bulldogs have a bad case of yellow. Now I think it would be a nice thing for everyone that has tickets to keep them and give the money which has been paid for admissions to the game, to the team for the splendid showing which they have made.
If anyone does not like the idea let them go and cash up. It seems to me that there would be a very few who would ask for their money back. It would also encourage the boys to come back next fall.
From P. G. M.
A Real Fan
Flanigan wrote to The Daily Times in Davenport:[3]
The Canton game is all off. I offered Hays $7,000 in an attempt to land the game but failed. They did not believe that we defeated Akron until they confirmed, report from Indians direct. It is merely a case of cold, cold feet and a streak of yellow.
Since the Bulldogs weren't going to play the Independents, they automatically declared themselves the national champions.[1] However, the Bulldogs also considered themselves the champs due to their undefeated record.[3]
Yeah, pro football is going to need somebody to settle controversies like this. Maybe a national football league?

Joining the APFA

Although his opinion of the Canton Bulldogs may have soured after their failed championship game, Flanigan was eager to work with Thorpe again.
On September 16, 1920, he boarded a train for Canton, Ohio to participate in a meeting of the top pro football team managers and owners.
"Manager Walter Flanigan left last night for Canton, Ohio, to attend the annual conference of major professional football teams, whose representatives assemble every year to plan the campaign for the world's championship," wrote The Rock Island Argus.[5]
The meeting took place at Hay's car dealership, but the details of that can be found in the last post. Flanigan would be appointed to a three-man committee to write the new league's constitution, joined by Carl Storck of the Dayton Triangles and Stanley Cofall of the Cleveland Tigers.[6]
Upon adjournment, the American Professional Football Association was born. We now have a national football league.

St. Paul Ideals

While the Marines dominated the Minnesota football scene, the St. Paul Ideal Athletic Club was not exactly a juggernaut by comparison, but they were no slouch either. An amateur team, the Ideals entered the 1919 season with the claim that they had lost only thrice since 1914.
In the amateur football section of The Minneapolis Morning Tribune's September 11 issue:[7]
A challenge to Minneapolis fotoball teams has been issued by the Ideals of St. Paul. The Ideals are disirous of booking games with a number of Minneapolis teams, especially the Indians and the East Ends. The St. Paul aggregation claims a record of having been defeated only three times in the last five years. Games already have been arranged with the Billows, Seatons, Hook 'Em Cows and Nicolius. All communications should be addressed to C. R. Woesner, 325 Daly street, St. Paul.
The Marines took up the Ideals' challenge. And promptly walloped them 36–0. Three weeks later, the Ideals tied the Minneapolis Eagles in a scoreless game.[8]
How did they do the rest of the year? I honestly do not know. Media coverage of the Ideals was virtually nonexistent, or at least incredibly difficult to find online. The Pro Football Archives schedule only lists those two games plus two others with no scores, while searches on Newspapers.com and other sites have been mostly fruitless.
Eh, whatever.

Game Day

Build-Up

Rock Island's Douglas Park played host to the Independents' 1920 season opener against the Ideals. Although Rock Island was considered the favorite and was returning its entire starting lineup from the previous year, Flanigan and Ursella were not going to let their guard down.[9]
"A defeat at this time would injure the box office to a big extent besides putting a huge crimp in the chances for a championship team," wrote Frank Weir of The Daily Times.[9]
In the week leading up to kickoff, Ursella ran his team through three-hour practices that included installing new offensive formations and audibles.[10]
The Davenport Democrat and Leader on September 24:[11]
Fearing over-confidence might play a prominent part in Sunday's battle with the St. Paul's Ideals, Coach Ursella last night wired for Chicken, star halfback, and Bob Marshall to report for work at once. Both men will be on hand for tonight's drill at Douglas park. [...]
From all indications Sunday's argument is going to be a heated one. Flanigan at first figured that the St. Paul aggregation would offer only enough resistance to afford his team a good workout but according to the dope which is coming from St. Paul the Ideals are a stronger aggregation than early reports indicated.
Fearing a surprise, Flanigan notified Ursella to get Marshall and Chicken in harness at once.
The Davenport Democrat and Leader on the morning of the game:[12]
Hardened by two weeks' gruelling practice, Rock Island's crack professional football eleven is ready today to open what promises to be the most successful grid season in the history of the professional game in the Tri-City. The St. Paul Ideals, a team of reputation, will offer the opposition and in spite of the fact that this afternoon's contest will be the initial performance for both elevens a bitter struggle is looked for. The game will be played at Douglas park and will be started promptly at 3 o'clock.
The Islanders will enter the fray in he pink of condition, to use the old ring adage. For two weeks Coach Ursella had drilled his team in signals and formations, sprinkling in a few spirited scrimmages between the regulars and second string men. The result is that the Independents will start the season in form that would become an eleven in mis-season condition.
[...]
Saturday the entire city of Rock Island talked football and no doubt football will be talked by the natives of Rock Island for breakfast, dinner and supper today. The city is football crazy.
Today's crowd, no doubt, will be swelled by hundreds of Davenporters whose interest in the Independents is just as keen as the interest of the Rock Island fans. Moline also will undoubtedly send a huge delegation to the game.
Fear Over Confidence
While Coach Ursella is confident that his team is far superior to the St. Paul aggregation, he expressed fear of over-confidence in speaking of the opening clash Saturday.
"The Ideals have played good football for the past three years" stated Ursella, "and I don't believe some of the men are taking the contest seriously enough. I don't want a surprise sprung in this game. I believe I can make the fellows realize they are meeting a tough aggregation, however, before they start in the game."
Bruce Copeland of The Rock Island Argus:[13]
There, football fans, is the first recipe of the season waiting for the expert cuisine of the Douglas park melting pot from which Rock Island hopes will trickle the championship brew at the close of the most eventful football campaign in tri-city history.
Championship dreams of months' duration will first be realized when hundreds of pent-up football enthusiasts from miles around meet tomorrow afternoon at Douglas park and see the green and white jerseyed warriors jog on the field for the first game of the season against the doughty Ideal A. C. of St. Paul.
The game will open a door to a new epoch in tri-city athletics after years of consistent achievements and good sportsmanship. Beyond the portal will be found Championship Way, along which the Independents of 1920 will course; and there isn't a fan in Rock Island who has the slightest doubt that their advance will lead right up to the shrine at the end in which the titular fires are burning.
Tickets were $1.65 plus tax, though attendance was hampered by the weather. After 7,000 fans were expected, only 800 showed up.[13][14]
"As Rube Ursella says, 'Let's go!'"[13]

First Half

As rain fell on Douglas Park, the game began with the Independents winning the coin toss and electing to receive. Left end "Oke" Smith returned the opening kickoff ten yards to his team's 25.[14]
The first offensive play from scrimmage was a nine-yard gain by Mansfield, followed by a 20-yard run by Ursella. A few runs later, halfback Eddie Novak found a hole set up by left tackle Dewey Lyle and scored on a ten-yard run for the first points of the day, capping off a four-minute, 11-play drive.[14]
Although St. Paul's left end Maidl Pavleck returned the ensuing kickoff 20 yards to midfield, his team's opening possession ended after just one play when halfback Cunningham Mikesh lost a fumble that Freeman Fitzgerald recovered. Mansfield broke free and reached the Ideals' 15, and a 12-yard run by Novak set the Independents up at the three. Two plays later, halfback Fred Chicken scored.[14]
The Ideals' next series ended with a three-and-out. After a five-yard run by Mansfield, Ursella completed the first forward pass of the season with a 22-yard throw to Smith to reach St. Paul's 18. By the end of the first quarter, Rock Island was in scoring range at the two-yard line. A play later, Novak punched it in for six.[14]
Down by three scores, St. Paul began to see life when quarterback Parr A. Pahl found E. Dixon O'Brien for a "brilliant forward pass" that went 40 yards. That was ultimately the only good play of the drive as Pahl tried an onside kick (before 1923, the onside kick was legal on scrimmage plays) that Chicken recovered. Both teams exchanged punts shortly after.[14]
Following St. Paul's punt, Chicken's grip on the wet ball slipped, but Mansfield recovered and gained 15 yards before being taken down. A 28-yard run by Chicken placed Rock Island at St. Paul's 38, followed by a 12-yard gain by Paddy Quinn. Three plays later, Mansfield scored again on an 18-yard run.[14]
A 52-yard run by Mikesh put the Ideals in Independents territory, but they could not capitalize as time ran out.[14]

Second Half

After some substitutions, the game resumed with Rock Island kicking off.[14]
A fake punt by Pahl into a lateral to Mikesh on the first play gained three yards. The two attempted a double pass a few plays later, though Mikesh slipped on the mud and fell. As the offense grinded its way into Rock Island's side of the field, yet another double pass placed Mikesh with a lot of open field... until he slipped again.[14]
All offensive progress was ultimately stopped when Pahl was intercepted by Waddy Kuehl, who returned it 82 yards for a pick six.[14]
Mikesh was downed for a 12-yard loss to begin the Ideals' next play from scrimmage, pinning his team at their own eight. Facing immense pressure on the ensuing punt, Pahl dodged the blitz before delivering a quick kick to the St. Paul 32. A 12-yard run by Sid Nichols allowed Rock Island to enter the red zone, where they pounded their way to the end zone yet again on a five-yard run by Mansfield.[14]
The offensive woes continued for the Ideals when Pavleck's pass on a fake punt led to him getting sacked (which was not a term at the time) for 13 yards. Pahl was the next to try a throw, this time succeeding on a 21-yard completion to Pavleck. Mikesh was tackled for an eight-yard loss to end the third quarter.[14]
Down by 42, the Ideals began placing heavy emphasis on feeding Mikesh the ball. St. Paul found themselves in position to score their first points of the game on a drop kick by Pahl from the Rock Island 45, but it was well short and sailed wide left, being caught by Kuehl at his 13.[14]
Nichols let the ball slip through his hands on the next play before Fitzgerald recovered. The Independents' march would see two 22-yard runs, another fumble recover, and an awkward TD score as Kuehl slipped as he crossed the goal line. Nichols missed the extra point.[14]
The final drive of the game saw the Ideals lose a combined 15 yards. Final score: Rock Island 48, St. Paul 0.[14]
The Independents recorded 427 yards on 45 total plays, while the Ideals had just 85 on 52. Rock Island also outgained St. Paul in first downs (17 to five).[14]

Post-Game

Despite the shutout, Weir praised the Ideals, writing in his post-game report that they "displayed a lot more class than this score indicates. The visiting team fought doggedly through the entire four quarters and pulled plays at a surprise nature at intervals that netted long gains. [...]
"The Ideals have a smooth working football team and one that against a less formidable opponent would show some excellent results."[15]
The Davenport Democrat and Leader:[16]
The Independents showed a world of power and lots of spots where sandpaper can be applied profitably. Their offensive was all that could be desired, but the defense was far from perfect. Time and again the visitors would carry the ball to the Rock Island 40-yard line with end runs and line plunges, but that was their high water mark.
None of the Islanders deserve especial citation, all played their part well. Keuhl, Novak and Ursella were extremely clever at eluding the ends, while Novak was always good for four yards thru the line.
Mikesch, St. Paul left halfback, showed a world of speed and pulled off several dazzling end runs thru the entire Islander team. Twice he was stopped on the uncomfortable side of mid-field with only Ursella between him and the two little uprights. Pahl and Pavlick also showed class. Les than 2000 bugs were in attendance.
Copeland:[14]
The score does not indicate the class of the game from the standpoint of interest, for although the Ideals were vastly outplayed in almost every department of the game, they remained a dangerous vector throughout the game that threatened to flaunt the unexpected and thereby cross the Rock Island goal line.
There were several moments during the one-sided contest when breaths were baited from suspense when the Ideals rallied sporadically and cut loose with scoring stuff that was checked only by the most concentrated defense. The Ideals fought gamely to the end through the falling rain that would deter almost any team of such a light weight as the season's initial victims. Outweighed fully 10 pounds to the man, the Ideals made the Independents exert their best, hereby making it one of the best games to witness.
A few days after the game, Flanigan finally got what he wanted the previous year: a game against Jim Thorpe and the Canton Bulldogs, scheduled for November 21.[17]
Well, until everyone on the Independents started getting hurt during the season (including a particularly ugly game in early November against George Halas' Decatur Staleys), leading to its postponement to November 28.[18] The game was ultimately called off as Thorpe felt it was not financially practical, despite Flanigan still being able to provide the $5,000 guarantee.[19]
Flanigan and Rock Island would never play against Thorpe during their time in the NFL. However, in an ironic twist, Thorpe would join the Independents for the 1924 season. The team folded after 1927.[1]

References

[1] THE ROCK ISLAND INDEPENDENTS by Bob Braunwart and Bob Carroll, The Coffin Corner: Vol. 5, No. 3 (1983), Professional Football Researchers Association
[2] CANTON CALLS OFF GAME AFTER LEARNING OF DEFEAT ISLANDERS HANDED OUT TO AKRON TEAM from The Rock Island Argus, December 3, 1919
[3] Sunday's Game Joins Sweet Dreams As $7,000 Is Refused by Bulldogs from The Daily Times, December 5, 1919
[4] "GIVE BOYS JACK INSTEAD REFUND" SAYS LOYAL FAN from The Rock Island Argus, December 6, 1919
[5] ARGUS TO GIVE BOOSTER SHEET TO HELP CAUSE from The Rock Island Argus, September 16, 1920
[6] Associating in Obscurity from the Professional Football Researchers Association
[7] AMATEUR FOOTBALL from The Minneapolis Morning Tribune, September 11, 1919
[8] Parks End Season Sunday Meeting St. Paul Ideals from The Minneapolis Morning Tribune, November 19, 1919
[9] INDEPENDENTS OPEN SEASON WITH IDEAL A. C. TOMORROW: 1919 TEAM NOW GATHERED by Frank Weir, The Daily Times, September 25, 1920
[10] Islander Team Drilling Hard for First Tilt from The Davenport Democrat and Leader, September 22, 1920
[11] IDEALS NO EASY MARKS ON FIELD, R. I. BOSS LEARNS from The Davenport Democrat and Leader, September 24, 1920
[12] TIPPING OF GRID LID TO DRAW RECORD CROWD from The Davenport Democrat and Leader, September 26, 1920
[13] ST. PAUL TEAM NO SETUP FOR OPENING GAME by Bruce Copeland, The Rock Island Argus, September 25, 1920
[14] Speed and Brawn Win for Islanders; Score, 48-0 by Bruce Copeland, The Rock Island Argus, September 26, 1920
[15] INDEPENDENTS, WITH FULL STRENGTH, WIN OVER IDEAL A. C. ON MUDDY FIELD, 48-0 by Frank Weir, The Daily Times, September 27, 1920
[16] Independents Swamp Ideal A.C. 48-0 in First Tilt of the Season from The Davenport Democrat and Leader, September 27, 1920
[17] Rock Island Plays Thorpe's Indians from The Des Moines Evening Tribune, September 29, 1920
[18] Rock Island and Canton to Meet at Douglas Park on Sunday, Nov. 28 from The Davenport Democrat and Leader, November 16, 1920
[19] COLLEGIANS TO MAKE ISLANDERS STEP by Bruce Copeland, The Rock Island Argus, November 22, 1920
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2020.09.26 14:59 Frosty_Preference_33 Home cybersecurity setup - advice

Hello Reddit!
I have created my account solely for this post. I have reasons to believe i am being targeted by a hacker (my ex, she works in cybersecurity....) - started receiving very professional phishing emails, AV started blocking port scans (before that i never detected one), my instagram account was hacked (received login message from another country). All this in a matter of 3-4 days. I immediately started to read a lot about cybersecurity and improved my home setup (PC) with the following measures:
  1. Installed the paid version of one of the top AV on the market with included firewall.
  2. Installed a reputable VPN provider.
  3. Updated all software and drivers. (mostly the drivers were out of date)
  4. Installed a privacy oriented web browser with maximum security settings.
  5. Changed name and password of router. I even changed IP of the router though i am not sure if it matters.
  6. Installed password manager and created different email aliases and very complex randomly generated password for every account i have. Turned on 2FA everywhere where it wasn't turned as well.
  7. Tweaked all the security/privacy settings on every account, app and PC.
I didn't know where to ask for help so i turned to Reddit. I would really appreciate advice from this community about the following:
  1. I know a lot of cybersecurity "tips" on the internet are for protecting against random hacking but what about targeted hacking from a pro - are the abovementioned measures enough/strong?
  2. Is there anything else i can do to protect myself? Something i missed? What would you've done in my place?
  3. I scanned my ports using an online scanner and i consistently receive port 1025 opened, which i don't know how to close or if i should close at all. Is this something of concern? Can i get hacked through that port?
  4. What is my weakest link in the system (excluding phishing ofc.) - my router, web browsing or something else? I have tweaked its security settings from what i have read on the internet. I don't really see what more i can do.
  5. I consider installing CCleaner but i am not sure if it will help for security?
English is not my native language so excuse my mistakes :)
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2020.09.26 10:44 Eshopbox How a great fulfillment experience can boost your NPS?

How a great fulfillment experience can boost your NPS?
NPS (Net Promoter Score) is a valuable metric for predicting business growth. It is a way to measure customer satisfaction and loyalty. A high NPS means your customers could turn into active promoters for your brand. A low NPS means your customers are not content with their purchase experience.
‍NPS is basically asking one question to your customers:
How likely would you to recommend our products or services to others?
Customers can answer on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the most likely to recommend.

Tips for a great NPS survey

Don't hesitate to ask
Ask your customers how likely they recommend their purchase on a scale of 1-10 and what are the reasons they give this score. Don't forget to ask if there's anything specific that you can do improve the overall experience.

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Survey the right people
Be considerate about who you are requesting the feedback form. You need to ensure that you are surveying actual users.
Improve the timing of your NPS collection process
Before you send a feedback survey form to your customers, analyze the time of usage for that specific product. Let your customers use the product they purchased, and after a defined period, you should ask them for feedback regarding their purchase.
Utilize the right channels for NPS survey outreach
For measuring NPS accurately, it's crucial to survey the right people at the right time. You need to ensure that your customers are getting the NPS survey through a channel that best suits them. For example, if you communicate via email, then use email as the request channel. If you have a software product, then collect feedback from inside the application. If your audience is an older one and isn't internet savvy, maybe taking the survey through a phone call is the best method.

83% of consumers are willing to refer after a positive experience - yet only 29% actually do.

Why NPS is important for you ?

Increase customer loyalty
When you sell a product or offer a service to your customers, it very important for you to gather feedback about their overall purchase experience. This kind of personalized communication makes the customer feel empathetic and would make them likely to recommend your brand.
Ensure customer retention
Your customers are keen to provide you their feedback. They expect you to pen down their thoughts and find the quick resolutions to their problem statements.
Develop better products
Gain insights from your customer's feedback to establish the scope for product development and improvisation.
Reduce churn date
Reduce the churn rate by using your NPS feedback to analyze which customers are at risk before churn happens.

According to the Nielsen Global Trust in Advertising Survey, 83% of people trust recommendations from people in their inner circle, and 66% trust online consumer feedback.

Aspects of a great fulfillment experience

Your Net Promoter Score depends on your customer's satisfaction levels and their overall purchase experience. Here are some features of a great fulfillment experience which helps you get superior ratings:
Quick delivery of orders to your customers
Customers expect speedy delivery for their orders. With services like two-day delivery, fast arrivals have become a fundamental customer expectation. To achieve this, you would require significant expertise in your fulfillment process. Such standards enable you to get superior ratings, which in-turn boost your NPS.
Periodic order status notifications
New-age customers always want to know where their order is, and when is it to be delivered to them? To provide notifications to your customers, you need to have an efficient order tracking system. When your customers receive timely order updates, you are taking away anticipation and anxiety from their delivery experience. These customers are likely to recommend your brand to their acquaintances.
Error - free fulfillment
In modern-day eCommerce, there's little or no scope for faltering in the fulfillment process. To deliver the right product, you need to set up a team of professionals that ensure the accuracy of the orders—pick, pack, and ship the correct item. This way, you slowly build customer loyalty and get the desired ratings.
Easy returns
Customers need to feel secure about buying merchandise on your brand website with an easy and hassle-free returns procedure. To achieve this, you need to generate return shipping labels, and schedule doorstep pickup's for your customers. Additionally, you need to provide customers with timely notifications—so that your customers don't need to follow up with calls and emails continuously.

How Eshopbox helps you boost your NPS?

Offer speedy delivery to your customers
In this competitive online shopping ecosystem, customers expect delivery within two days, or sometimes even on the same day. Eshopbox provides you with warehouses located in various zones across India. You can use these to split your inventory to store products closer to customers and minimize your transit time. Whenever a customer places an order, the order is assigned to Eshopbox’s fulfillment center nearest to them. It lets you offer an Amazon-like experience to meet customer expectations.
Provide superior order tracking to your customers
With Eshopbox order tracking service, your customers will always be informed about their purchase at every step of the fulfillment journey. The service is built to help you provide your customers with periodic status updates and notify them in case of any delays.

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Make sure your customers get what they order for
Eshopbox assures order accuracy on two fronts—real-time inventory snapshot so that you only take orders for inventory you have. Secondly, Eshopbox uses automated order fulfillment processes in combination with quality checks so that your customers get the product that they have purchased with no defects or inaccuracies.
Friction-less returns for your customers
Eshopbox aims to make every return a potential re-purchase. It is vital to make returns a strategic differentiator by continuously improving customer experiences. Eshopbox offers customers with an easy to use self-service portal to initiate their returns. Additionally, printable shipping labels are generated, and carrier pick-ups are scheduled at your customer's doorstep so that your customer always has a pleasant experience.



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2020.09.26 09:39 Dull_Focus_6191 Virgin considering escort need advice

As u can read in the title I’m a 25 year old virgin. So I rather make it quick because I have never been the guy of talking much. And Excuse my English it’s not my native language. A bit of forestory, if u are not interested skip the next part.
I’ve always been a loner since my young teens, didn’t ever had any friends and if I talked to schoolmates it were superficial conversations. I lived with my mum and little brother, my mum was never around so I had to take care of my brother, if she was around, she were pretty abusive ( I don’t want to go into details) so no one to talk to and me trying to escape this shitty reality lead into drug abuse. The last 10 years were pretty dark. I’m trying to get back on my feet rn, it’s not easy and i feel lonely and unloved but that’s okay, I never experienced such things so I don’t even know what it’s like. So that resulted into bad social skills escpecially with girls. Since I wanted to try my luck i used online dating apps such as tinder etc but never were really lucky. They never replied or stopped responding in the middle of conversations. Guess that’s only for pretty people. I’ve often got told that I’m ugly and things like that in school, which lead to not very much self esteem obviously. I feel like having sex with a prostitute would lower my mental wall a bit, showing myself to someone. since my chances to find a girl seem pretty low, I would like to have sex at least once in my life Just to know what it’s like.
Now I’m considering to hire an escort since it’s legal in the country I live. I’m pretty nervous, as mentioned I’m not good with talking, especially to girls. So if u have any tips or could share your own experiences with me it would be really appreciated.
Thanks for reading.
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2020.09.26 08:58 Dull_Focus_6191 Virgin considering an escort

As u can read in the title I’m a 25 year old virgin. So I rather make it quick because I have never been the guy of talking much. And Excuse my English it’s not my native language. A bit of forestory, if u are not interested skip the next part.
I’ve always been a loner since my young teens, didn’t ever had any friends and if I talked to schoolmates it were superficial conversations. I lived with my mum and little brother, my mum was never around so I had to take care of my brother, if she was around, she were pretty abusive ( I don’t want to go into details) so no one to talk to and me trying to escape this shitty reality lead into drug abuse. The last 10 years were pretty dark. I’m trying to get back on my feet rn, it’s not easy and i feel lonely and unloved but that’s okay, I never experienced such things so I don’t even know what it’s like. So that resulted into bad social skills escpecially with girls. Since I wanted to try my luck i used online dating apps such as tinder etc but never were really lucky. They never replied or stopped responding in the middle of conversations. Guess that’s only for pretty people. I’ve often got told that I’m ugly and things like that in school, which lead to not very much self esteem obviously. I feel like having sex with a prostitute would lower my mental wall a bit, showing myself to someone. since my chances to find a girl seem pretty low, I would like to have sex at least once in my life Just to know what it’s like.
Now I’m considering to hire an escort since it’s legal in the country I live. I’m pretty nervous, as mentioned I’m not good with talking, especially to girls. So if u have any tips or could share your own experiences with me it would be really appreciated.
Thanks for reading.
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2020.09.26 08:50 LupinePariah An Introspective Opinion

I've spoken about this on Twitter a little but I wanted to go a little more in-depth.
Following my completion of this game I couldn't help but notice the negativity in the press and I've come to realise just how present a problematic factor there is: privilege. I suppose that's what happens when you hire pretty people, you encounter those who haven't really had to tsruggle in the way others have, who haven't known what it's like to be on the outside and to have an outside perspective. That's what this game has. Similarly, I'm starting to think that "heavy-handed" is a shorthand for "this takes me out of my comfort zone and makes me aware of things that are making me distinctly uncomfortable."
I'll come clean with my outside perspective: I have autism. I grew up through the '70s when things weren't quite as progressive as they are today, the common usage of the r-word, commonplace ostracising, and easy abuse were the zeitgeist when it came to us. I mean, who cares, right? It's not like an r-word is going to complain or tell anyone. Sure, things are better today but not by much. The Judge Rotenberg Center has only recently been halted from using electroshock torture and even then they haven't stopped it fully, they do what they think they can get away with. The world is better than the one I knew, but not by much.
There's something about autism. I mean, it's the social programming or lack thereof. That's the thing. As an autist, I navigate through life via affective empathy. I feel what other people are feeling but it takes me time to figure it out. I want to, of course. Just because I can't immediately plumb the depths of why I feel validated or thoroughly like shit without some solid introspection doesn't mean that I don't want to. It's the opposite. I'm always trying to learn what different emotions mean.
I've noticed that I care way more than neurotypicals on average, too. I mean, sure, if a bad thing happens a neurotypical will cup their hand over their mouth but it seems to be forgotten just five minutes later. It haunts me. It all does. I keep parsing it, recollecting, colleralating, examining, cross-referencing, trying to find some meaning in all of it. I parse this through my emotions too. I have heard that this is true of introverts to an extent and from what I've heard about the difference between the longer versus shorter processing pathways it's likely true. I suppose they feel like a halfway house. The process longer, but they don't get hung up on things like us.
Sometimes we can look like a machine that's "hung" because of how preoccupied we are, this is something that neurotypicals don't really understand, always expecting immediate responses and attention due to... I don't know, really. I sometimes wonder if it's narcissism to a degree due to how they tend to love themselves to such a degree, how they fetishise the similar and the familiar, not ever realising how pathological a hierarchical state such as normalcy is. I mean, to have normal, you've also got to have abnormal. That's the way of it, it's a dualism. So what of those who're relegated to being abnormal?
What of those who want to be, or don't? Do we consider those who'd rather their diversity be accepted rather than just fetishising over the small similarities as neurotypicals want to? We know that in nature, diversity is necessary. Without genetic diversity, a species will soon become very extinct. This is why ethnic supremacy is a baffling concept. It's like a voluntary extinction movement in a way, it might not happen immediately but it is inevitable. I don't understand the desire to expediate the devaluation of life into entropy but I'm not neurotypical.
I acknowledge that.
Like I said, things are better today but everyone knows when you're autistic. They can tell. It's the lack of social programming I spoke of. Neurotypicals know what to say, do, or think. Often, it's told to them by influencers who're charismatic enough to lead them, thoughts are put in their head that they never really seem to question, they just obey them. To me, neurotypicals seem much more like machines than autistic people do because they follow their programming only rarely ever stopping to ask whether this is right, or just, or kind.
This is something we see in Detroit: Become Human with police brutality. The police are robots, they're just following their social programming and doing what was put in their heads without ever really questioning it. They just "know" that all that's in their head is right, that's what they belive anyway, and they never doubt that. Sometimes I think that neurotypicals don't have invasive thoughts that they struggle against, I'm given to wonder if invasive thoughts are a recognisable marker of neurodiversity since they're thoughts that you question, struggle against, and eventually have to learn to deny.
tt's possible, of course, that given hardship neurotypicals can become like neurodiverse people. They've been hurt so much they have to question and be introspective.
Then again... A while ago, I witnessed a campaign where an Alt-Right splinter group created a bunch of fake accounts, and using those mixed with hacked real accounts went after trans people posing as Otherkin. They bullied them, harassed and haranged them, abused them. It was wrong, but it wasn't Otherkin people doing that, that much was obvious to anyone who was an Otherkin, the language, the behaviour, it was all wrong. I mean, besides, there's a lot of crossover with states like that and autism. I think most Otherkin would recognise the inherent harm in bullying, they just wouldn't do it. And we tried to tell them that.
It didn't work. The thing is is that the Alt-Right had put this idea in their head that Otherkin were a threat to their normalcy, their safe, protective blanket that allowed them to blend in and have their thoughts given to them by those above them on the social hierarchy. We didn't do that. So they went after Otherkin people mercilessly... the online bullying and harassment by trans people was untenable. They sought to invalidate and deny the existence of species dysphoria at every turn since they thought they'd been wronged by a troll group and the majority of them?
They didn't question it, did they? They just obeyed. The programming was there adn they obeyed it. This is neurotypical behaviour as I've observed it at its most basic, tribal, and primal. It's very animalistic. Chimps and ladders, if you're familiar with that social experiment. Yes, it isn't a real experiment—to my knowledge—but it is a social experiment. The purpose of the experiment is to have one wonder about why they obey things without questioning them. There are very many experiments—social and otherwise—that prove that neurotypicals often do just obey.
I mean, look at Detroit: Become Human. I look at most of the reviews and I don't find a solid argument against them. Even with community figures like Jim Sterling whom I would've expected to know better. Still, he's neurotypical, and his programming is to rag on David Cage. That's what his programming dictates to him so that's what he does, which is incredibly disappointing. I had thought better of him and I was hurt to learn otherwise. That's what I keep learning though, again and again. Neurotypicals obey. They have their programming and they obey.
Others might obey programming too, they do it out of fear, anxiety, remorse, manipulation, or for any other number of reasons and they do so until they crack. Something just breaks within them and they realise that this isn't fair, it isn't right, it isn't just, it isn't kind. And they break. Then the programming is gone. You're on the outside then, you're looking in with a completely alien, different perspective and you can't go back. Normalcy is a warm safety blanket, but once you remove it you become a demon in the dreams of others. There's no going back from that, more than that, there's no desire to back to just sleeepwalking through life like that. Just following toxic programming without ever stopping to ask why, to question, to be introspective and really examine and try to arrive at a kinder state of existence. Normalcy isn't kind, it's inherently pathological. Normalcy is a delusion shared to uphold a power hierachy. Since what's more important to the average person than a power hiearchy and their place within it?
I brought up Otherkin. I am too. I went through over a solid decade of abuse and I have the scars and disfigurement to prove it. I was raped, beaten, tortured, locked up and denied food and water, all because I'm not like neurotypicals and because they thought they could get away with it. They thought it would be okay, that I'm... Well, you can guess what they thought, I'm too stupid to even know better, to care about what was happening to me. I was just a subhuman thing. A thing.
That was my point of relation with this game. I understand that there are many, this is just mine. I mean, like I said, anyone who's gotten to this point where they can't just be normal, where they can't just obey social programming, where they have to be on the outside? There's lots. And this account is just mine and mine alone, but there are millions of others out there who'd have their own stories to tell and I'm sure that many are even more fraught than my own.
The premiere autism forum on the Internet is called Wrong Planet because we're forced to have this perspective—that we're on the outside, looking in, trying to figure out humanity as aliens. This is how I've always felt. Having witnessed the cruetly of humans and the lengths they'd go to to just obey their programming? I can't identify as human anymore. I don't want to. I mean, if you'd lived a life like this I don't know how you could? I can't worship humans.
I don't really have Picard's perspective on humanity. I don't get that reverent self-worship for the species as though it were the most perfect thing in existence.
This perspective.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9xgvEusIvDg
I don't get that. I don't see that. I see cruel robots on Murderworld and they terrify me. It's not so bad though, I mean... The Murderworld robots won't go psycho and slaughter you, just so long as you pretend to be like them, so long as you hold up the pretense of having their programming. The moment you don't, though? Their programming edicts demand that such anomalies be dealt with in the most harsh way possible. So you learn. You learn to try to act like them just to fit in. I've spent most of my life in isolation rather than having to do that too much.
It makes me feel sick.
So I'm an Otherkin. It was a decision I arrived at for a number of reasons. I was raised primarily by the kindness of dogs, they looked after me where humans wouldn't and I imprinted upon them, I learned many behaviours from them that I still have to be careful not to exhibit around any neurotypicals. They're always there though. Thus, canine is what I relate to more than human, I see more kindness there. Don't you? I think it's self evident. Similarly, I created a tulpa when I was young to keep me sane. I didn't have that descriptor for it then but he's stayed with ever since. He's a dragon. I always liked dragons.
I like intelligent dragons though, thoughtful, considerate, able to reason. I've always seen that there's something to them that upsets many neurotypicals. I don't know whether it's the horrifying notion of something more intelligent than a human or whether it's just that a being of reason is contrary to toxic Murderbot power fantasies. I mean, I see this anxiety caused by dragons as the reason that so many were lobotomised and amputated within fiction. If you take away both their mind and hands, they can no longer reason or express themselves, you've turned them into whatever war machine a neurotypical needs to get their jollies.
I mean, the height of my feelings about this was exemplified by Skyrim. I saw these dragons just writhing around on their bellies because they didn't have forelimbs to hold themselves up. They looked more like amputated dogs I'd seen at vets than birds or bats. I've been to bat sanctuaries, I used to occasionally volunteer at one where the people seemed just as autistic as I am. Well, that or some other kind of neurodiverse, perhaps even just introverted as I accept there's some crossover there.
The point is though is that on the one hand we have something like Draco from Dragonheart, the kind of dragon that always has to die for whatever reason, usually as the last dragon for humans to feel sort of bad about for a bit then better because—well hey—they survived whereas the dragons didn't. On the other, you have war machines who're commonplace, cattle lining up ready to be murdered by whatever clownsuit-waring Gamer warrior is up next. It's not a good look.
That's what I think when I look at a lot about humanity: It's not a good look.
Sure, you have people who are kind and do things to help those who aren't like them but they probably aren't very neurotypical in the first place. If they are, then it's only by a margin as they've had their programming broken, the programming that forces them to be selfish and to consider their own tribe first at the expense of all others. I don't think kindness is very neurotypical.
I'm just going to be self-indulgent here with a point that came up on Twitter and how appalled I was to be right. I mean, there was some perverse amusement in it to be sure but for the most part it was just disgust.
I postulated a social experiment. It involves a dragon. It often does with me. I like dragons. I mean, the kind that still have their hands and minds anyway, which are very sapient things to have. The first thing that a furry character gets is hands and minds, right? Take those away... Well, I won't dwell on that too much but that's why four-limbed "dragons" exist. Anyway, the point...
Four white men stand at the precipice of a yawning concavity, the tools they carry on their person suggest a multitude of military professions. In the dimly lit depths below the ancient ruins of a long forgotten city can be seen and something large lurking within the long shadows cast within. Rising out of the darkness is a scaly head that hisses at the men above, a dragon. What do you see here?
Well, they could either be heroes out to spare the nearby town from a vile plague that's been haunting it and causing them suffering for some amount of time, that's true. It could be. The one that lurks in the depths could be a truly evil creature that feasts on the suffering of mortal men, that much is a given.
Then again, the one that lurks below could simply be a vulnerable mother protecting a clutch of recently laid eggs, a couple having hatched as helpless babies unknowing of the cruelties of this world. Those standing above? They could be freebooters, bandits, vagabonds who'd heard that there was treasure to be had here, all they had to do was slay the beast within.
Now, if the latter is true, what options would this dragon have? I suppose they could try to reason with them, certainly, but how would that go? The dragon is, after all, a dragon. The belief they hold is that dragons speak only trickery and lies, so if this one is offering them all of the wealth within the city below if they would just leave them and their newborns in peace? Well, this is a trick, surely? This dragon is unlike them, it has to be a liar, and it's obviously hoarding something far more valuable it's trying to draw their attention away from.
It has to come down to a fight. Who'd live, who'd die? Who would you support? What would you do if you were there?
The answers I got were abuse over why the heroes were white men. No one actually considered the question, they were just angry that I'd used white people as a contrast to an unfamiliar presence that they might abuse. So they chose to taunt and mock me for it because of course they did, I expected that. I had hoped for better, I always hope for better, I rarely ever see it. Not from neurotypicals anyway. I mean, like I said, neurotypicals terrify me. I suppose, if I were actually anyone I'd be worried for my life. My safety is in that I am not.
I hide in isolation because that way my partner, my dog, and I can enjoy our share of peace. It doesn't stop the neurotypicals from ravaging the world around us though, we're 100 seconds to midnight and that's unlikely to change since the neurotypicals are just doing what they always do, they're following their programming. Just like the cops in Detroit: Become Human, and just like the cops in the recent American protests. The Murderbots of Murderworld. I mean, you're either one of them or you're just as terrified of them and there are so many reasons to be terrified of them. Could be something as simple as the pigmentation of your skin, your gender, or how differently your brain works.
On the topic of dragons, have you read the facsimile edition of The Hobbit? Interesting thing, that. Oh so very interesting. I read it when I was young, I got my hands on the original through my family and I loathed the edited version. Why? Well, in the original, Gollum wasn't evil. There was a game of riddles and Gollum lead Bilbo through the caves and gave him the ring, they parted on good terms. I know this seems impossible to believe but it's what was in the original book. Capitalism changed that, Tolkien decided to appeal to the neurotypicals and because Gollum looked different? Well, he had to be evil. Naturally.
Similar, Smaug wasn't originally evil either. He was very greedy, he was stricken with the same greed sickness that the dwarves themselves had. And Gandalf? Gandalf was a troubling dragon bigot whom no one should've really listened to. In the original book, it seemed like Smaug was one who could've been reasoned with. After the edit? Not so much.
What I find especially interesting is that in the film, even though he used words, he seemed even less rational than in the edited books. What else did he lose? His hands. It felt as though his words were parrot-like mimicry rather than those of a sapient mind and Smaug had been reduced, over time, to become just another mindless war machine. I mean, you need war machines for Murderworld's inhabitants to feel good about murdering. If something isn't a war machine, they're hardly going to feel good about murdering it. And they want to, oh how they want to. I mean, of course, both of those things. They want to feel good and they want to murder.
I... don't really have power fantasies like that. I'm sorry. It's not necessarily a judgement, it's just that I'm tired. Mine are of healing, rescuing, and helping. One of my favourite games was one that received almost as much vitriol from the press as this one—Uru: Ages Beyond Myst. That was a power fantasy for me, I could solve puzzles to help the bahro be free from slavery. I played a chubby, dark-skinned, bespectacled hippie. I enjoyed being that character even though I'm not enamoured with playing as a human so much.
Another interesting experience for me was Fallout 2. A game which could be played with a minimum of fatalities. I liked that. One of the bugbears for me that that left me feeling devastated was that I couldn't sav the intelligent deathclaws, no matter how much I wanted to. I mean, they had a right to exist as much as anyone else. Why not, I ask you? I mean, yes, they're not human but that isn't really a good reason, is it? I don't think it is. I feel nauseated that anyone would... That's exactly what I saw, though. Their loss was celebrated.
I remember when I replayed it at a later date with killap's Fallout Restoration mod. I saved them. There was an ending slide where they planned out a peaceful expansion North, diplomatically, negotiating with other settlements such as Vault City. They used their words. The truth is? I couldn't have been more happy. I related more to them than to any other in the game. Just as I related to Goris. Goris was an intelligent deathclaw who was special to me. You see, the deathclaws had a range of intelligence and Goris—by not being a judgemental monster—found ways to communicate with them all. He was a scholar who loved language and he didn't see diffeerentials in how minds worked as a negative factor. I loved him.
I saved Goris and his friends, I helped to enable their future where they could peacefully co-exist. I was delighted, as you might expect. I tried to talk to Fallout fans about this discovery as I was elated, a happy little puppy dog and... I was met with hostility, so much hostility. You see, it turns out that the intelligent deathclaws aren't very popular with Fallout fans. Why? An egotistical designer by the name of Chris Avellone had written a Fallout Bible. A bible, yes. I found much of what was in it contradicted other sources, it even openly contradicted other developers who had seniority over Chris or whose works he was speaking for that weren't his. I didn't find that very appealing, but they did. Chris was popular and charismatic, you see. Charismatic enough to tell them what and how to think, naturally they obeyed. As neurotypicals do.
I looked into him and found that he had some very worrying attitudes about women. I didn't like him. A decade later it turns out that Chris is in the centre of a sexual harassment scandal where he was getting women drunk to try to have his way with them. You can imagine my surprise.
That's how it is with neurotypicals. They tend not to think or question. They'll often do something really thoughtless and cruel and just wave it away with "I didn't think!" as though that somehow makes it all better, as though that's to be accepted. I mean, unless I'm reading this wrong, it seems almost celebrated amongst neurotypicals to not think. It's a high-five moment.
I've just had a lot of experiences with neurotypicals and none of them good, all of them because they have programming that they rarely ever break free from. Their influencers, their charismatic figures just tell them what to think, they obey. I'm terrified of neurotypicals because you never know what's been put in their head for them to think when you encounter them. You can hope it's not too terrible but then again it might be. I mean, thankfully, we are starting to get influencers who're trying to wield this truth about neurotypicals toward more empathetic ends. It's not just a game for charismatic sociopaths anymore. Still, even though things are improving, you can't know what they've been told to think. You can't tell what their programming is just by looking at them.
I don't know how well I've conveyed my message here but if you think that Detroit: Become Human was a cathartic experience for me? You'd be right. I'm tired of lines in the sand, I'm sick of how there's so much hierarchy and tribalism. I opted for a completely pacifistic route and I ended up with the best ending for everyone. Kara, Alice, and Luther made it to Canada. Connor, North, and Markus lead the revolution. Public opinion was on the side of the androids. I felt happy.
I mean, it's a good power fantasy to be able to win the day with pacifism. I'm not a fan of Murderworld where the only choice is to kill. I don't like those power fantasies. I'm tired of them. I'm not of the belief that video games make people violent, I am of the belief that neurotypicals simply are violent and they enjoy violent things. The Murderbots of Murderworld. That's why so much of our entertainment is the way it is. Murder is a cathartic power fantasy for most neurotypicals. It isn't for me.
Detroit: Become Human judges you, that's for sure. I felt that as I was playing and I can understand why a well-programmed neurotypical Murderbot would feel distinctly uncomfortable after playing it. The thing is though is that their loathing is telling because there are very few arguments against it that withstand even a few second's scrutiny. The most coherent I've seen is that the gameplay is old-fashioned and clunky (Skyrim's wasn't?) and that they... didn't particularly enjoy the game forcing them into a position of servitude at the beginning. The point as to why it did tending to fly over their heads, just as it flew over Jim's... I'm still disappointed about that.
I think that this game is going to separate people into two groups, since dualism is a human thing: Those who're privileged and enjoy their programming who'd dislike this game for having the sheer, unmitigated gall to question it; And those who exist outside of the paradigm of normalcy, who have no such programming anymore or never did, and they love it. It's divisive, and I think that's why.
I am who I am and because I am who I am, I love Detroit: Become Human. It speaks to the kind of life I've lead. As I said, I have scars and I'm disfigured. I won't heal more than I have. And those marks, those welts, wounds, and dents are visible for all to see to further single me out as a creautre that doesn't have the Murderworld programming.
All I can hope for is that one day we could have a world where this programming no longer exists and everyone thinks for themself. It's a high order, I know, but it's what I would want. I don't want anything bad to happen to the neurotypcials, I just want to break that programming so they can see things as they are and want to do something about it. Failing that? My tulpa, my dragon, Storynthisacaelymveir of house Pryddwr has an amazing world in my wonderland. If I could go there and drag a few others with me? Sure. I don't know if I have it in me to stay here if I actually could leave. I wouldn't want to.
It's not a good look, right? It's worth asking then that if I see this world this way, how would others further outside of it? I think that if I were an alien species? I'd be waiting to see which way this tips. Whether The Great Filter gets us through ethnic suprmeacy winning out and them having their perfect world before their dilluted DNA causes them to go extinct, or whether the world might end looking more like those of us who have empathy, who're tired of this place being like it is.
That's the question that Detroit: Become Human asks. Which way will it go?
100 seconds to midnight.
Edit: One thing I will add as a footnote? The hardest choice in the game for me was a survey question at the end, it asked what the most difficult choice was for me. It was tricky because in truth the answer was "none." I had no difficulty. At every turn, I chose peace, and wherever I could I chose empathy. I didn't shoot Chloe, my Markus was always going to be peaceful, and it didn't matter to me whether Alice was android or human—she was a person, and that's all that mattered.
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2020.09.26 01:29 joyofsun How to find if personal infos have been leaked by a former date?

I went out on a couple of dates with this guy and he is stalking me online since. A couple of weeks ago, I mentioned on Instagram this zoom event I would participate in and he not only found the site, time and day of my presentation as well as made sure I knew he was aware of it.
Suddenly, during my Zoom presentation my PC was infected with a virus. I got a warning and became super nervous, had to logout, change devices, it was a mess. Later, I formated the computer and tried as best as I could to protect my files. I can't know for sure if it was him, bute I have a gut feeling it might have been. If so, my concern is that I sent him some pics while we were texting... I wouldn't be surprised to see them leaked at this point. I totally blocked him on social media, but I would like to know if someone knows what are the links these type of scumbag use when they can't deal with hearing "NO." Any tips appreciated, tnx.
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2020.09.25 23:35 MusicDrafts Fantasy Music Drafts... An Explanation

I figured that I'd share something with this group that my friends and I started in late 2016...
We are all big sports fans, and naturally we like fantasy sports. Our group is also REALLY into music. Real junkies.
I, myself, always used to take my iTunes library and work to pare down "greatest hits" albums for each of my favorite artists. What would an album look like? Single/Double Album? How many songs should be included? What was the order? Catalog sequential or more topical?
One night, two of us were having a beer watching a game and we started arguing about Smashing Pumpkins songs and which ones were the best. And it got us thinking...
As everyone knows, the best part of the fantasy season is the draft. You get the chance to craft your team with the best players available. You feel like a real GM.
That's when I had the stupid idea to "draft" 10 songs each and see who's was better.
We shared the two lists and they voted on which was better, and slowly this morphed into us starting a FANTASY MUSIC DRAFT LEAGUE.
Yes, we are a bunch of junkies and losers.
But...
We also follow through with an idea.
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Here's the basic logistics of how this works...
We have 5 guys in the league, and we started a group chat on our iPhones.
For season 1, I created a group of 10 bands to draft (subsequent "seasons" we would have a "band" pre-draft...)
We create a random draft order using a fantasy draft randomizer online, then we have a 10-round snake draft picking songs along the way.
We then have a short drop/add time to round out our 10 songs, then work to reorder those songs to make the 10-song playlist.
We create the playlist on Spotify and then share with the rest of the group. All of the picks and playlists are saved on shared Google Docs file to keep us organized.
Then, we each score the playlists with two criteria: "Draft Performance & Song Quality" and "Playlist Construction & Theme Quality". (By the way, this is the inherent flaw in our league, as music is incredibly subjective. We've refined the scoring system several times, still not sold on our methodology...)
The scores from the individual weeks add up over the course of the season and we declare a winner.
We are now in the middle of season 8. To date, we've done 87 official drafts, and probably another 10 side drafts. As you could imagine, our wives think this is the dumbest thing ever, but we persist...
Here are the bands that we have done thus far...
SEASON 1 Week 1 - Radiohead Week 2 - Incubus Week 3 - Coldplay Week 4 - Pearl Jam Week 5 - Pink Floyd Week 6 - Kings of Leon Week 7 - Red Hot Chili Peppers Week 8 - Led Zeppelin Week 9 - Smashing Pumpkins Week 10 - Beatles - Double Album
SEASON 2 Week 1 - Bob Marley Week 2 - G-Funk Era Week 3 - Dispatch Week 4 - Billy Joel Week 5 - Outkast Week 6 - Michael Jackson Week 7 - U2 Week 8 - Motown's Greatest Week 9 - The Who Week 10 - Dave Matthews Band - Double Album
SEASON 3 Week 1 - Eagles Week 2 - Jack Johnson Week 3 - Rush Week 4 - 2004 Week 5 - Allman Brothers Band Week 6 - Seattle Scene Week 7 - Death Cab For Cutie Week 8 - Eminem Week 9 - Weezer Week 10 - 1982 Week 11 - The Police Week 12 - Hair Metal Week 13 - 2017 Austin City Limits - Double Album
SEASON 4 Week 1 - War On Drugs/Kurt Vile Week 2 - Rolling Stones Week 3 - Black Crowes Week 4 - 1986 Week 5 - Tribe/Q-Tip/Busta Week 6 - Kanye West Week 7 - Beck Week 8 - Everything Jack White Week 9 - Tom Petty Week 10 - 1994 Week 11 - Elton John Week 12 - Rage Medley Week 13 - 2011 Mountain Jam Festival - Double Album
SEASON 5 Week 1 - Boy Bands Week 2 - Ben Harper Week 3 - Green Day Week 4 - 1981 Week 5 - My Morning Jacket Week 6 - Tame Impala/Mac Demarco/MGMT Week 7 - The Roots Week 8 - WuTang Clan Week 9 - Blink-182 Week 10 - 1998 Week 11 - Stevie Wonder Week 12 - Lil Wayne Week 13 - Woodstock Festivals - Double Album
SEASON 6 Week 1 - Beach/Chill Summer Medley Week 2 - John Mayer Week 3 - 311 Week 4 - 1974 Week 5 - Bob Seger Week 6 - Nas Week 7 - Beach House Week 8 - Chon/Ronald Jenkees/Tauk Week 9 - Kendrick Lamar Week 10 - 2005 Week 11 - Genesis Medley Week 12 - Grateful Dead Week 13 - 2004 NOLA Jazz Festival - Double Album
SEASON 7 Week 1 - Phish Week 2 - Death Cab Re-Draft Week 3 - Hieroglyphics/Bay Area Week 4 - Jimmy Buffett Week 5 - 1978 Week 6 - Black Star Week 7 - Toro y Moi Week 8 - Queen Week 9 - Fiona Apple Week 10 - 2000 Week 11 - Brooks and Dunn/Alan Jackson/Travis Tritt/George Strait Week 12 - Steve Miller Band Week 13 - Logic
SEASON 8 - Current Season Week 1 - Chuck Berry/Little Richard Week 2 - Frank Sinatra Week 3 - 1971 Week 4 - Aerosmith Week 5 - Prince Week 6 - Foreigner Week 7 - 1996 Week 8 - Credence Clearwater Revival Week 9 - Miles Davis Week 10 - Foo Fighters Week 11 - 2003 Week 12 - Pavement Week 13 - The Whigs Week 14 - Unknown Mortal Orchestra Week 15 - 1967 Week 16 - Anything Crosby, Stills, Nash, or Young Week 17 - Chromeo Week 18 - Bone Thugs N Harmony Week 19 - 2007 Week 20 - Erykah Badu/Jill Scott Week 21 - Undetermined Festival - Double Album
I'd like to start sharing the results of the already completed drafts somewhere here in the community. Maybe post them week by week, with links to the Spotify lists, and let the group at large vote on the playlists.
Wanted to get feedback from this group to see how to best make that happen.
Thought you'd appreciate the music nerd-dom...
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2020.09.25 21:51 oinkoinkacab An online journal accepted one of my stories, but I believe that the journal has since closed down. How long should I wait before submitting the piece elsewhere? What steps do I need to take?

I had a general fiction piece accepted by a small online journal, it was supposed to be published in issue 13. The date of the publication has since come and gone and they have not published issue 13, nor have they published issue 12. I assumed they had just decided to close down but wouldn’t they publish something saying so on their website? There is no recent activity on their website or social media accounts, however they are still accepted submissions on submittable. I have not received any responses to my emails regarding issue 13. Can I begin to submit my story elsewhere/how long should I wait before doing so? Do they still hold the rights? Upon acceptance they said “rights revert to the author upon publication.” Should I send another email informing them that I will be submitting the story elsewhere? It’s a small publication so I imagine there won’t be much drama and since they haven’t published the piece yet they haven’t paid me (not that it would have been much) so I assume there won’t be any issue financially. Anyone have any tips for me about navigating this?
Edit: it’s only been a little over a week since the issue was supposed to come out, but it’s been months since the last issue was published.
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2020.09.25 20:58 Deathbringspasta The Odd Disappearance of Daniel Barter

To begin this story, we need to jump back in time to the year 1959, in Perdido Bay, Alabama. The date was June 18th, 1959, and the Barter family who lived in the 1700 block of Thrush Drive in the nearby city of Mobile, Alabama, were enjoying a camping trip in the Perdido Bay area. This trip consisted of Daniel Barter, his mother Maxine Barter, 3 of his 6 siblings, and one of his cousins. His other 3 siblings were staying with some relatives. This campsite was not much more than an hour from their home in Mobile.
Sometime between 9:30 and 10:00 a.m., While Daniel’s parents were preparing their fishing equipment for the day, Daniel would wander off from the rest of his family. At the time, he was carrying a bottle of Nehi soda around with him. Maxine Barter did not seem to notice Daniel’s absence until about 10 to 15 minutes later. She began searching for her son but could not locate him or any sign of him anywhere. Not long after this, authorities were called in and began a full search of the immediate area.
Now, what concerns me the most is the area Daniel went missing in. Being from the state of Florida, I have grown up in swampy areas my entire life. I even used to swim in them from time to time, stupid of me I know. Swampy areas not only hold many dangerous critters, but they have endless nooks and crannies for someone to fall into and never be heard from again. This specific swampy area in the Perdido Bay area is highly infested with alligators. The possibility of Daniel being attacked by one of these animals is unfortunately rather high. So much so that officials caught 2 alligators and cut them open, but to no avail.
Multiple groups of civilian volunteers came together to search the area, walking shoulder to shoulder in groups of 25. They did this in a 5-mile radius of the area and combed it extensively, looking for any sign of Daniel. This massive group peaked at around 2,000 people, including 300 members of the local US Navy and military bases and over 150 law enforcement officers and firemen from Alabama, Florida, and other close states.
Bloodhounds and other scent dogs were brought in to search the area as well as Jeeps, helicopters, horses, and more, but again nothing would be found. Not even the Nehi soda bottle was ever found. Somehow, this 4-year-old boy simply vanished into thin air, never to be seen again. Divers searched from the top of the bay down into the swampy areas, finding nothing once again.
The bottom of the lake was dragged, and sinkholes and thickets were searched thoroughly. Authorities hoped that in doing this they may jar out a body that could be stuck on the bottom. Dynamite was even tossed in areas he may have fallen as well. This sounds a bit extreme to me, but I guess I would not be the authority on that.
According to Daniel’s mother, Maxine Barter, Daniel did not like the water, and she does not think he would have gone into the bay by himself. The bay was exceptionally shallow at that time of day, you could walk a considerable distance without getting all that wet. The brush around the family’s campsite was very thick and prickly. Daniel was only wearing a pair of shorts at the time with no shoes. The Barter family does not believe he would have gone into the bushes either.
After over a week of tirelessly searching the area which turned up little to nothing, officials decided it was unlikely Daniel walked into the water or woods around them on his own. This was one of the most intensive searches ever conducted in Baldwin County history. Authorities began to investigate the likelihood of this being an abduction. They were never able to find any clues or evidence supporting this theory though. The Barter family was not a wealthy one and they never received any sort of ransom note or message. Making a motive of ransom unlikely.
Things would only grow to be stranger from here on out though. According to Daniel’s mother, roughly a month or so before Daniel would disappear, she claims to have seen a mysterious unknown vehicle parked in front of their house. Maxine would allegedly approach the car and attempt to confront the driver. She said a man was driving and he immediately covered his face with a newspaper and drove off. To make this claim a bit more valid, a neighbor of the Barter family claims they saw a man acting strangely and peering into the window of the room Daniel and his brothers slept in. The neighbor would mention this to Maxine, and they investigated the place the man had been standing. The man, of course, was gone but he had left footprints in the dirt under the window.
They would call the police who came and photographed the footprints and took casts of them. Since this was nearly 60 years ago, it is unclear if this evidence even exists anymore. I do want to mention, that even though this case is old, there is still a chance we can help progress it. While I do not have the highest hopes that justice will be brought here, I do still think it is unbelievably valuable to keep the memory and story of Daniel Barter going. If only as a cautionary tale for parents out there.
The last thing I would like to mention in the timeline of strange happenings is that on the morning of Daniel’s disappearance, Maxine drove him and one of his brothers to the store. She parked and went inside, leaving the boys in the car. While she was gone, an unknown man drove up next to the Barter’s car and stared at the boys for an uncomfortable amount of time. Then the man suddenly drove away without speaking a word to them. Daniel’s brother would tell Maxine about this encounter when she returned to the car.
Due to this odd sequence of events, the Barters heavily suspect that someone had been stalking the family for some time, with intentions to abduct Daniel. Unfortunately, the case would go cold and would fall inactive until just recently. Nearly 50 years after Daniel disappeared his case was reopened in 2008. That was 12 years ago, and we are still in desperate need of help to bring justice to Daniel. Many of the original case files have been lost or destroyed in the last 6 decades. Making this that much harder to piece together. I have seen cases with less info be solved recently though, so I do have faith that Daniel Barter may have his day of justice.
I have found several theories online and in articles as to what happened to Daniel. I will briefly touch on a few of these theories. The main theory is of course that Daniel was abducted by an unknown suspect. Due to the timeline shared by the family, this is the strongest belief. A second theory and one of the early theories of this case is that Daniel accidentally drowned in the Perdido Bay. Even though the family heavily refutes this as he did not like the water. But the tides were incredibly low and easy enough for a toddler to walk a fair distance without getting very wet at all. The third theory is that Daniel may have gotten lost while walking around the area of the campsite. Since the brush was so thick, it would not be impossible that Daniel got turned around and became lost. But, since the area was searched so thoroughly, this is unlikely. The fourth and final theory I will be touching on is the idea that Daniel may have been attacked and possibly eaten by an alligator. Now, this is a bit extreme but, in an area, with several alligators, this is not unfathomable. Multiple large gators were hunted in the area and gutted, but no evidence of human remains was found.
Sadly, Daniel’s father died in 1965 and his mother followed in 1995. Both never knowing what truly happened to their son. All the siblings that were alive during the disappearance are still alive and that he is still out there and hope the case will be resolved one day. In 2009, the family returned to the campsite to remember their missing brother and dedicated a half-century mission to find him.
Daniel Barter went missing from the Perdido Bay, Alabama area on June 18th, 1959. He was just four years of age at the time and was last seen wearing grey boxer shorts and carrying a bottle of Nehi soda. He was 3 feet tall and weighed 50 pounds at the time of his disappearance. His hair his brown and so are his eyes, he has scars on his fingers and one on his tongue. His case is currently labeled as a non-family abduction and if he is still alive, he would be 64 years old. If you or anyone you may know have any information on this case, please send in your tips to Baldwin County Sheriff’s Office, 251-972-8589. You can always remain anonymous.
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2020.09.25 20:35 Keepitsimple007 Need Advice - Brand New to Dating

27m here that is brand new to dating. Any tips for how to approach dating successfully for someone with no experience? Best places to meet quality single women these days?
Had very little success online. Was able to get some connections that led to a couple yeses on dates but everytime the woman would flake last minute. So I've decided to cut out OLD for now since it seems like it's not a good avenue for my time when I could try meeting more people in the real world which is more my style anyway.
I'd say I'm averagish the looks department but I'd like to think I have a really great personality and sense of humor (don't we all lol). Im working on getting in better shape, dressing more stylish, better grooming, and pursuing exciting hobbies.
Help a brother out!
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2020.09.25 20:26 KevinPineapple Kevin Pineapple's B.S. IT Review

Hey everyone!
Following in the footsteps of many others--notably u/jwawa and u/wotanwolf, I'd like to offer my writeup on the BS IT program through WGU, and how I completed those classes. I completed it within 1 term, only transferring in 21 credits from completion of certs prior to my start at WGU. A little background about me: I work full-time as the sole IT analyst for a major healthcare company in their downtown office full-time M-F. Most of my time during waking hours was either work, study, or both permitting downtime.
I also want to mention this: There have been several courses where I failed the OA, and had to retake it. That is not because the course itself was difficult, but rather I was under prepared and didn't take the time to slow down and comprehend it properly.
I highly recommend both jwawa's and wotan's guide, as they were my motivators to succeed: https://www.reddit.com/WGU/comments/88nnpw/jwawas_it_course_notes/ (jwawa), https://www.reddit.com/WGU/comments/8izjot/wotans_bs_it_review/ (wotanwolf)
In addition to their wonderful guides, I also used an excel spreadsheet made by u/berge472 located here: https://www.reddit.com/WGU/comments/62lb59/course_progress_tracke; I used this as a means of motivating myself over time, and to show how far I've come.
Start date: 5/1/2020 End Date: 9/25/2020
My Courses
WGU has been a great experience for me, and even now writing this out feels like a dream! There were days where I didn't want to keep going and take a day off, but I held true to my goal of getting it done; Even when I failed my OA's, I became more determined to succeed. My schedule has been roughly the same since I enrolled: I work 7:30 AM - 5 PM M - F, but wake up as early as 4 AM to get a head start on some course work.
The only advice I can give is to breathe. There are going to be moments where you feel like you can't go on anymore, but I promise you, you can get to the other side and get that degree!
Once again I want to thank u/wotanwolf and u/jwawa from the bottom of my heart: You guys inspired me to return to school, and to finish it within 1 term. Thank you guys.
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